Mean Girls and Their P* Whipped Husbands...

So I was a little tardy to the Facebook party and just joined 2 months ago. Really, I held out for as long as I could and only joined begrudgingly...but...

One of the first people to contact me on FB was a guy that I dated briefly in HS. Now by "briefly" I mean, like June and July of the summer of our Junior year. He was the same year as me, but we ran in totally different circles - he was in the "popular" crowd and I was in the "geeky" crowd (or the "nerd herd" as we were so affectionately dubbed by our less than intelligent peers...

Anyway, he was one of the most "popular" guys in our grade - good at sports, in student government, fairly wealthy, great car, great clothes, and, to top it all off, gorgeous. What he saw in me, I will never know...but, we started talking at a party. I did have some friends in the "popular" crowd and would occasionally go to one of their parties. Usually I ended up standing awkwardly on the outskirts, as I didn't drink, smoke, hook-up, or do any of the other things that usually went on at high school parties.  This guy, I'll call him TJ, started talking to me at a party, and as it turns out, he was actually very articulate, intelligent, and funny, unlike a lot of his Neanderthal-ish buddies.

We ended up outside on the front porch talking for a while, and found we had a lot in common. For some reason, we just "clicked" and had a really enjoyable chat. Unfortunately, his ex-girlfriend (now his wife...ugh!) was super clingy and possessive, and kept finding excuses to come out front. I was pretty unaware at the time of the dynamic that was going on, but I know now that she was totally threatened by our innocent little chit chat and was keeping an eye on him. She was a typical "mean girl" totally bitchy to anyone not in her clique, openly mocking people who weren't in the "popular" crowd, and nasty to girls who didn't wear the right clothes/shoes/etc. She had said some pretty horrible things about a close friend of mine, and made fun of my clothes on a regular basis - granted, I was in my "shopping at the Salvation Army for vintage clothing" is cool phase but still... She and another girl also prank called me our Freshman year to make fun of my acne - I had HORRIBLE acne in my Freshman year, so bad, I was put on Accutane, which was pretty radical at the time. They called me pizza face, crater face, etc. and would laugh and hang up. I knew it was them.

We ended up talking on the phone, and started "seeing" each other secretly. I would sneak out at night and he would pick me up, or I would say I was staying at a friend's and he would stay over at one of his friend's who just happened to live in my neighborhood and I would sneak into his basement and hang. This lasted for about 2 months, and then suddenly, he stopped calling me, stopped answering my calls, just...stopped.

School started in September and I still didn't know what had happened.  Turns out, he had gotten back together with his psycho ex and neglected to tell her that he and I had been seeing each other. However, I think she either suspected or knew, because she escalated her mean girl behavior towards me. Getting some of the "popular" guys to throw things at me at lunch or try to trip me in the halls, or say things under her breath when I walked by. Pretty nasty piece of work she was...

Fast forward 18 years - yes, 18 FRIGGIN' YEARS!!! - and she's still an insecure psycho bitch from hell.

So, he messages me on Facebook saying hi, it's great to see me on FB, what have I been up to, and that whenever he heard a certain alternative band he thought of me (this was my favorite band when we were dating). I responded in a pretty generic fashion - "Hey, great to see you too! Yeah, I still listen to (band name), hope all is well with you!" and that was it. He responded that he and his wife have 3 kids that keep them busy, he owns his own business, etc. I respond, "That's great! You have a beautiful family! I work at (name of my work), and love it! Glad to hear that you are doing well!" Again, VERY generic, very benign, very safe! He responds again, asking if I kept in touch with anyone from our graduating class, mentions names of a few people he talks to, etc. I actually didn't respond to this message because by this time, I was deep into the Facebook Frenzy and could barely keep up with the friend requests, messages, wall posts, news feeds, invitations, etc...

So, a few days later I get this message, from his WIFE, basically telling me to stay away from her husband, asking who do I think I am, etc. etc. I responded, "Dear (bitch's name) I'm sorry you are  so upset. Perhaps the person you need to speak to is your husband, as he is the one who initially messaged me." So then...I went back to read the messages between he and I, just in case I missed something. Nope.

Then I went back to look at where he had originally posted "Hey how are you?" on my wall - post was GONE!

Haven't heard a peep from him since. Kinda feel bad because I'm sure she gave him a ration of shit after reading my response.  Poor guy trapped with a bitch of a wife and 3 kids under the age of 8...sheesh...
Then again, if he had any balls to begin with, he wouldn't have gotten back together with her or put up with her nasty behavior. I guess some things never change, even after 18 years...